My dear friends,
Our ancient tradition of joint family systems already diminished and nuclear famil...
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My dear friends,
Our ancient tradition of joint family systems already diminished and nuclear families spreading every where due to the current rat race of survival the fittest syndrome as well as looking at the greener pastures across the borders.
Present day families suffer from lack of get-togethers within the family as both husband and wife are working cadre, sons & daughters either studying overseas, working in different shifts or employed elsewhere away from home towns.
The scenario in few joint families where mother-in-law’s & father-in-law’s too working, sons and daughters employed, grand children’s studying in other cities / overseas and have less time to spare to each other except in Sundays or some family functions and events of get-togethers.
Many of the families miss their children due to globalization & the opportunities for employments in overseas there by abandon their parents at their home in search of carrier and greener pastures.
Their only solace for the members of the family is the modern technological communication facilities like Voice Chat, Instant e-mails, off liners and mobile contacts to communicate to each other.
Still the loneliness of elders staying alone in a remote place and their wards employed in overseas / away from home town creates emptiness in day to day life.
Where as for the youngsters to settle down as “All leads to every one to live in his / her own world with no kith and kin to share, or in other words, aloneness and privacy leads to marrying some one from the country where he / her choose to live being called as a family".
Once finding his / her employment prospects and settles for green card in that country, there by ignoring the elders at far away home town.
There is also some families where double income by both the husband & wife with no kids as they do not prefer kids.
Elders are left with their pensions and mail transfers from their wards to live in loneliness.
Some times the elders are being ignored by their own wards and left to struggle themselves to survive within their limited income with no one to take care during their old age / ailments except some friends and well wishers.
At this juncture we need a law to punish & fine the wards who ignore their elders by not supporting them financially.
The Government plans to set up fast track courts to fulfill the moral obligations of elders above 60 years and seek redress of their grievances in case of neglected by their children’s.
Some times we witness Grand parents calling their grand children’s to wish them a Happy Birth day instead the grand children seeking the blessings of grand parents.
The whole structures of family values are under severe strains & pressures.
The old sayings of mother’s care in the family where when she serves food to all family members on the table in which she actually serves her love and skills in cookery is being missed now.
All this leads to re align our families to remain as a family only when we nurture it to survive & exist.
There is no satisfaction or happiness when one live alone and one can experience the joyful moments & sharing their sorrows together in life when he / her lives with a family.
Respect the elders and share our great concern for their welfare is the ultimate message to live a fruitful life.
Subbu
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Our dear Vijisang,
Welcome to our sulekha world of friends and thanks for joining here.
It's true that the present day kids are smarter, at the same time thinks that they know everything because of their access to latest techno savvy gadgets.
How ever the values of our traditions cannot be taught in computers and T.V media, it has to be experianced and tutored by elders to youngsters.
Thanks to your other site www.tamigg.com for introducing you to this site too.
You will find many more interesting bloggers and wonderful blogs are there to entertain, learn as well as to be shared.
Do expect your blogs soon.
All the best.
Subbu
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Hi Mr Subbu,
Iam a new member and read your blog on palani temple on www.tamigg.com. That is how I came to visit this blog. I read some of your blogs. Very interesting and very true. Especially this one on nuclear family and its reality. Even among very small children you can see the difference, the influence of television and they act like they know everything bec of TV and computer. It is very scary to imagine what what these kids will grow up to be.
Vijisang
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My dear D.Sampath Sir,
Thanks for reminding the facts of nuclear families and their commitments overseas & the way periodically they make the visit to motherland as well as their parents visiting them for a short stay.
I do agree on this fully, yet the message in my blog is the other side of the coin.
where elders are being neglected by a few and make their lives miserable.
Those people need some solace from the friends or some oldage homes or by society.
The purpose of leading the life is to make some savings for the future on overseas employment and come back to motherland and spend with entire family including those elders.
Thanks for the fine tuning and glad that you shared the values of well knit family.
Subbu
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dear subbu,
you are in a different world..
i greatly admire what you have written and appreciate it
but my reality is that these are times of nuclear families..
sons and daughters get married and go abroad and visit you as a guest,
you go there inly when you are needed.
old world values are there
only in some pockets of society...
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Our dear Opulence,
Thanks for the kind observations and feedbacks.
The purpose of writing this blog is to ensure revival of our tradtional values by the present youngsters and shed the inhibitions of western influences.
Stay local, work global...Maintain the identity and family structures intact.
Subbu
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Subbuji,
A good write up on family values. In most of the families deep rooted values go dead, Sons not obeying their parents, daughthers falling prey to the wrong guy the senior citizens neglected ( old age homes are increasing in number), fight again property, husband against wife etc., etc., phew the list is infinite.
Very well said respect elders and listen to them,life would be fruitful and blest.
Cheers,
Opulence.
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